No one saw it coming, least of all Heather. She came from a great home with loving parents. She is close to them and her two sisters, both younger. They are a happy bunch. Heather thought she had found happiness in Kyle, her husband of only three years.
Kyle was never much of a romantic, but Heather thought she could change him. She was determined to show him all the love she could, to help him open up, to be more, well, romantic.
Kyle did not come from such a loving up-bringing. Actually, quite the opposite. There was a great deal of yelling and fighting between his parents most his childhood. Finally, they divorced when Kyle was nine years old.
Heather knew Kyle’s history and was determined to wash away any negative feelings and sadness he had. To show him how happy a married couple can be.
She was able to keep it up for about two years, although he spent little time reciprocating her feelings. Heather was aware from the very beginning of their relationship Kyle had a difficult time opening up, showing affection, but she was sure she could change all that. All he needed was her love to help him grow and be the husband she knew he could be.
As the days, weeks, and months passed and no positive results from all her loving efforts materialized, Heather became more and more frustrated with Kyle and his lack of even trying to be affectionate with her. He was not this bad when they first began dating. Sure, he was a bit awkward with her affectionate gestures, but she thought he was just shy and needed time to open up to her.
Although it has only been three years into their marriage, Heather came to the realization that Kyle was not going to change just because she wanted him to. She began to understand that only Kyle could make the decision to change and it did not appear, at least in her estimation, that he was in any hurry or had any desire to do so. Heather gave up trying.
Rather than divorcing because she wanted to give her marriage one more chance, she and Kyle agreed to separate three months ago. Although Heather feels the relief of not having to practically beg Kyle for attention, she misses him terribly and what she had hoped would be a loving and fulfilling marriage, like her parents.
Heather continues to emotionally and mentally struggle with the current state of her marriage. She feels like she is in marriage limbo. She can’t keep this up for ever. She must make a decision to either remain married or file for divorce. She feels the weight of not seeing an end in sight, one way or the other. She’s talked to her family, friends, and even co-workers. No one has offered her a solution that makes sense to her. Her head is filled with so many questions and has no idea which way to turn.
Heather lays awake at night wondering what her life will be like if she remains with Kyle.
Will he ever change and give her the loving attention she craves or will she be committing the rest of her life to a love-less marriage?
On the flip side, if she files for divorce, will it turn out to be the biggest regret of her life????
She is terrified to make a decision, because both possibilities are too painful to imagine. Heather feels lost, overwhelmed, and frozen in time. She can’t go backwards and is unable to move forwards. She finally admits to herself, she needs help.
As you might have guessed, Heather and Kyle are a fictional couple. They represent what many women struggle with, most the time in silence. They try and try to make their marriage better. They become more and more desperate and begin to use various tactics to get their husband’s attention, such as, …
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Honestly, we all know one or all of them may work in the short-term, but not over the long-term. The marriage becomes more and more toxic and finally someone is threatening divorce, moves out, or eventually files for divorce.
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